Kate Spade went from an accessories editor for Mademoiselle magazine to a fashion and accessories icon. On any given day a Kate Spade purse, shoes or clothing item can be found walking the street, at your job, in the mall or anywhere. There she is. Her legacy will continue after her shocking suicide. The news flashed across my work computer screen that I keep on cnn.com every day. I keep it there to entertain myself – not for the politics – in the health, entertainment and style tabs. I wasn’t expecting, much like everyone else, to read such horrific news. It was so abrupt that I couldn’t take my eyes off the headline that Kate Spade is dead. WHAT?!?! Was she ill? Was there foul play? What happened?!


In the coming weeks and months, I’m sure we will read more and more analogies, stories and guesses about what happened that drove her to feel that the end of her life was the only answer. Her sister has since come out and said that her suicide was not as unexpected as some believe. She said, “I will say this was not unexpected by me. I’d flown out to Napa and NYC several times in the past 3-4 years to help her to get the treatment she needed (inpatient hospitalization). She was always a very excitable little girl and I felt all the stress/pressure of her brand (KS) may have flipped the switch where she eventually became full-on manic depressive.”After all of her efforts, her sister admitted that she had to let it go” because she realized that you can’t save someone, they have to be willing to save themselves. Click here to see the full note.


In previous conversation, Spade begged her sister who must avoid funerals at all costs, to at least attend her funeral. This is a very sad commentary for someone who others thought had it all. Which also played a role in her misery. The image that she felt she had to keep up with. The image that wouldn’t allow the “happy-go-lucky Kate” receive treatment.


To everyone who feels hopeless: know that someone loves you deeply. You are needed and necessary in this world. Your presence makes a beautiful difference. You offer so much that no one else can. If you feel that you need help, please call The National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit their website  to find help near you.


logo-with-ribbon afsp-hill-day-2017-1-pager

Leave a Reply